Apr25

What Message Are You Sending?

by Heather Whaling

Ever been in a meeting with someone who is constantly checking his/her phone, email, Facebook or Twitter? Doesn’t it drive you crazy? (It’s actually one of my pet peeves.)

I had a client once who was ALWAYS on his phone. During meetings, he’d answer his cell phone when it rang — never thinking twice about the fact that he was disrupting the meeting and wasting the time of everyone else in the room. Annoying.

Hence, I was intrigued by a recent PGI survey, which asked IT directors and small business owners about meeting manners. Some highlights of the top frustrations (read: bad manners):

  • Engaging in side conversations: 72 percent (IT), 69 percent (SMB)
  • Checking personal e-mail: 58 percent (IT), 64 percent (SMB)
  • Zoning out: 49 percent (IT), 54 percent (SMB)
  • Checking sports scores: 43 percent (IT), 51 percent (SMB)
  • Leaving the room: 38 percent (IT), 41 percent (SMB)

Clearly, many of us are focused on something other than the task at hand. Is this because we’ve forgotten how to concentrate?

Continuous partial attention (CPA) describes this behaviour. “We are always on high alert, scanning the periphery for other opportunities,” [Linda Stone] says. CPA, and the concomitant state of the do-it-now mentality, make us multitask, and speedily, so concentration is poor and mistakes are made. We all know that reading emails while on the phone to a client or when out with friends doesn’t work.

We’re all so used to being “always on, always connected,” that we don’t necessarily realize how technology distracts us. In addition to slowing us down, multitasking can send a negative message. Thinking back to that client of mine, I always got the vibe that he thought he time was far more important than anyone else in the room. It came off as arrogant.

When you’re multitasking during a meeting, you risk unintentionally sending the message that you don’t care if you’re wasting someone’s time. The next time you’re checking emails, responding to tweets in a meeting, or answering your cell phone (during a non-emergency), think about whether focusing on one item at a time could improve your effectiveness and efficiency … while also conveying to those in the room that you understand that they’re busy too, and that their time is just as valuable.

  • OnlinePRNews
    I agree that it is annoying, but I have also caught myself multitasking during a meeting. I will admit, it is mostly during a long phone conference call, but I cringe to think of the message I might have been sending if my colleagues noticed! I am going to try to be better about this. I promise! -- Tara
  • Heather,

    This is one of my pet peeves, as well. I try to always be present in whatever I'm doing, whatever that may be. Usually when I'm at work, I will work on one project or task for a while, then take a short break to check Twitter or read blog posts, then go on to another project, but it drives me insane when people "multitask" over a meal or meeting. I think people are starting to lose their social skills.The fact that teens now talk more via text than face-to-face (http://www.aolnews.com/tech/article/pew-study-texting-is-now-teens-top-way-to-communicate/19447380) really unnerves me. Perhaps because I talked so much when I was in high school. I sometimes wonder if all this technology isn't worth the time and money we spend on it. We have more information at our fingertips than ever, but what are we using it for?
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